Some more details about him, just in case you meet online or offline. Rudy Jurgensen, born Ulf Rudiger Jurgensen in Kiel, Germany. He was educated here in the US and has been living in the San Francisco Bay Area for more than 10 years now. He is 41 years old, has no accent, and physically, he’s 6-4, about 190 lbs., scrawny as hell, pasty white, thinning brown hair with some grey on the sides, a god-awful huge, protruding nose and looks much better in pictures than in person. Don’t let the picture above fool you. He works in Los Altos and lives in Redwood City with “the other woman” who was one of MANY women he had been screwing around with while he was seeing me first. Personality-wise, he’s not dynamic, quite boring, a compulsive liar who lies about everything and cheats on you, agrees with whatever you say or doesn’t say much at all, wimpy, spineless, hates confrontation, selfish, cold and calculating, and has no integrity whatsoever. He’s basically a very poor excuse of a man and just an all around scumbag loser. What was I doing with him you ask? I still ask myself the same thing. There are a whole lot of assholes out there, but this guy is one of the worst.

We started dating in October of 2004. At the time, he claimed that he hadn’t been dating for awhile due to work. He also said that he had broken up with his ex-girlfriend whom he had been involved with for 3 years and lived together for 1.5 years. He had also mentioned a brief ‘rebound’ with another gal after breaking up with his ex. And of course, in hindsight, the timing of when he broke up with his ex and when he was dating the rebound, just doesn’t jive. In the first few months we were dating, he appeared to be into me. We constantly emailed, talked on the phone and saw each other as much as we could. He would often tell me how pretty, beautiful and hot I was. We had a strong attraction to each other, and we were hot and heavy. And yes, you can assume what the reference to ‘videotape’ is in my blog title. Anyhow, I was blinded by the attention and the fact that he was very nice, intelligent, and I found him to be attractive at the time. Now, however, he is extremely ugly to me–inside and out. And yes, ladies, he is very nice, but beware–he’s a fake. He’ll say what he thinks you want to hear, e.g., if you told him you wanted to get married and have kids some day or if he’d read that or anything else in your dating profile, he’d play into that and go along it it. He’d tell you that he’s interested in the same things. He would also say that since he was “European,” he was “different” in his thinking of relationships. That should’ve been a huge red flag to me, but my sheer stupidity and infatuation got the best of me.

In mid-March of this year, I found out that he was steadily dating me, another woman which he ended up moving in with and still currently living with, met another woman he was also dating for 8 months, and as if that weren’t enough (which apparently it wasn’t), he was having multiple one night stands with random women and others who were regular sex buddies. Apparently, in the first two weeks of having moved in with the other woman, he went away for weekends with two different women. The woman he moved in with had just figured out something was going on, but not before they’d moved in together. She’s pretty lame to stay with him. To make matters worse, he was having unprotected sex with me and the other woman he’d been dating for about the same amount of time, since we were both in “exclusive” relationships with him. I know this for a fact because it was the other woman who had contacted me when she found out she wasn’t the only one Rudy was dating. It’s hard to really know what’s truth with Rudy. He lied about MOST EVERYTHING. The only thing I don’t doubt is where he works and that he’s from Germany. Everything else is very questionable. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was also having unprotected sex with more people than he’d told us. He’s absolutely selfish and disgusting to have put other people’s health in jeopardy. The only head he was thinking with was the one in his pants.